I’m a 20-year-old university student with little or no marketable skills, living at home with my parents and brothers in suburban Toronto. My bank account frequently shows less numbers before the decimal than after, and I’m already saddled with a 5-figure debt. Still, I was able to significantly improve the lives of three children on the other side of the world.
I had heard about the “Night of a Thousand Dinners” through my older brother and his girlfriend. It seemed like a lot of fun and also a relatively easy way to raise some money for a worthy cause. So, my girlfriend, Colette, and I decided to give it a try.
Admittedly, we were very excited about the possibilities for our fundraising dinner party and perhaps had unreasonably high expectations. We imagined ourselves serving hors d’oevres as we mingled with our throngs of guests, who laughed gaily at our lovable charm and unmatched wit. We figured everyone we invited would attend and it would be the social event of the year. However, as is often the case, “The best laid plans of mice and men…”
Colette and I cooked and created a delicious array of salads, rice, pasta, homemade pizza, and we even tried our hands at an exotic foreign dessert. We splurged on some tasty finger foods from a local grocery store, but everything else we made on our own. The preparation was a lot of fun, and when we were beginning to panic as the clock ticked away, two of my friends showed up early and helped us finish everything before the scheduled party time.
We cleaned the house, prepared the food, readied the sound system, set up our donation jar, displayed our landmine information, and waited … and waited … and waited. After an hour, it was still only Colette, myself, and my two close friends who had helped us make the food. We were getting hungry and decided to dig in ourselves. By the end of the night, only a few more of my closest friends and a couple of my brothers showed up. The extravagant dinner party of my dreams turned out to be a gathering of the same friends that hang around my house and eat my food on a daily basis.
When planning the dinner, I dreamed up this triumphant moment when I would stand on a chair and command the attention of all my guests. Everyone would gather around as I counted the hundreds of dollars we had raised. My dream possessed all the glory and enthusiasm of a PBS pledge drive (You know when they all look up at the giant scoreboard thingy that shows all the money they made, and then they count down the seconds until the final tally is announced, with the drum rolls and everything?)
Instead, when 11:00pm rolled around, and I decided to count the contents of our donation jar, it was rather uneventful. I must confess that I was feeling pretty bummed at this point and I wasn’t particularly looking forward to counting the money. The total funds raised at the end of the night were a little more than $60 (including the $20 my Mother had contributed and the $10 I tossed in). I was disappointed with the amount, and I considered the night a failure.
One of my brothers then noticed the “Adopt-a-Minefield” informational video that I had neglected to play. So, my friends and I watched it together; paying the images on screen sporadic attention as we chatted with each other. Every once and a while we would perk up at a particularly graphic image or captivating fact, tune in for a moment, and then return to our conversations. “A prosthetic limb for a child in Vietnam costs only $20 Canadian,” proclaimed the video’s invisible narrator. The statement halted all conversation in the room. My brother asked me to rewind the tape. We heard the words and figures once again. “Hey Brendan,” my brother began, “you said we raised $60, right?” “Yeah, $63 I think.” “Well, I believe we just paid for three new limbs for kids in Vietnam.” My mood changed instantly.
There are lots of times in our lives when we are told that every little bit counts. Rarely, however, are we actually confronted with the notion that our nickels and dimes actually make a difference. Well, they do.
Far too often, we focus on what we are incapable of doing, so we refrain from acting, and therefore protect ourselves from failure. The fact of the matter is that our actions, however small, can make a significant difference in the world. By hosting a small gathering for the Night of a Thousand Dinners, my friends and I were able to improve the lives of people we will never meet. That’s power.
Our actions may have been small, but the results were far greater.
In the end, we may have only raised about $60, which isn’t going to eliminate all the world’s landmines or repair any of its problems. However, there is one thing I know for sure; those kids in Vietnam must be smiling … and that’s more than enough for me.
(Brendan Kennedy is a 20 year old Canadian university student who writes for his university newspaper and who volunteers with the Foundation)
